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I am married to my loving husband for more than 40 years now. I am a mother to 3 beautiful children, until years ago when I lost my youngest son. Since then my life is forever altered but yet unbroken....

Tuesday 6 July 2010

That junction in the road…

“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines, sail away from the safe harbor and catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover...” – Mark Twain

I actually did not have a lot of friends until later in adolescence…

There were five of us who were best friends in that town. My best friends were a cadre of colorful characters. As best friends will do, the five of us enjoyed each other's presence and spent every waking hour together. We had so much in fucking common. And as best friends will do, we grew older, and moved to different towns, and saw each other less and less as the years went by.

We are 55 now, no longer kids. We had families and responsibilities and far-flung lives. But, as if by instinct, after many decades of separation, we came together again. Every time we meet, there’ll always be a twinge of sadness and loss as we turn the pages of our life and reminisced. We allowed our varied perspectives to illuminate each other, our strengths bolstered by the restorative powers of our friendship. We often look back at our childhood experiences through college and careers, all accompanied by a host of happiness and contentment but intertwined with domestic troubles, betrayals and agonizing fears and worries. We were intrigued in storytelling about the unlived life, the road not taken, the secret not told. We talked about what-ifs, that junction in the road where what seems a small decision at the time, yet it was something that changed our life for better or worse.

We don’t meet or speak to each other that often nowadays. But we know that we can still have conversations sometimes without even speaking…

(Big 5 less Kid)
Standing L-R: Anie, Bee, Nong & Ubai
Seated L-R: Nong, Ubai, Bee & Anie

14 comments:

  1. am sleeping on the bed of thorns again. would not be for another 4 decades though (don't have much left ...)

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  2. Am not being cynical, I may not be able to comprehend your suffering but i can feel your pain.

    Life can be cruel sometimes...

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  3. miss u all very much.....looking forwards ...for another moments to be together again...luv u Nong...misearable me..

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  4. I miss u all very much too.. A call for another get together.

    Please don't be miserable...

    Oooops, sape ni? Bee, Anie, Ubai or Kid?

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  5. was browsing the channels while waiting for the semi-final fix bet spain and germany two days ago and stop at tv3 as it was screening titanic.

    i was never a film buff but somehow the titanic relates to the b5 (the liner was the biggest in their era, wasn't it?). naah ... it's not the liner but the theme song .... arrrgghh

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  6. Friendship is eternal, the one thing that lasts forever.

    ...Near, far, wherever you are
    ...I believe that the heart does go on
    ...Once more you open the door
    ...And you're here in my heart
    ...And my heart will go on and on…

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  7. My heart will go on n on....
    ....tou

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  8. "tou" ?

    talking of strange lingo, overhead an african shouting during the final wc meet bet spain and nederland ; "mumumu!". wonder what it means

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  9. To the question of your life,
    You are the only Answer.
    To the problems of your life,
    You are the only Solution.

    What is that got to do with 'tou' and 'mumumu'... kah kah kah...

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  10. "mumumu"?....for the kelantanese...means awaklah..
    ..only those who knows..kah kah..

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  11. Nong..My new cucu ...Irdina..a week ago...miss u.

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  12. Hai grandma Ann,
    Congratulations! Now you have 2 grand-daughters. Bila pulak cucu aku nak bertambah ni.. he he...

    Mesti Bee jeles ni...

    miss u, miss u, miss u too..

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  13. Comelnya Kak Ubai.....and Kak Nong....??? groovy nyerrr....hahaha..jgn marah ya...

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  14. CikMilah,
    Those are my best of friends. Ada satu lagi takde dalam photo. Me, YB Ubai and the gang were rugged and tomboyish when we were young.

    Those were us when we were 15 and 55 years old. In between, there were 40 years of complicated life stories....

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